Whether you’ve been single for a while, or you’re new to the dating scene, you’ll know how hard finding success on dating apps can be. With tools like Bumble, Tinder and Hinge specifically designed to help us find our ‘person’, you’d be forgiven for thinking it was just a matter of downloading and swiping a few times before running off into the sunset with your happily ever after. Unfortunately, it's not nearly that straightforward.

Like anything in life, it’s much easier to achieve success in dating when you have a support crew or a wingman. Someone in your corner cheering you on when you feel like giving up. Those empty inboxes and ghosted messages can be downright depressing, or if you’re one of the lucky ones who can actually manage to lock dates in, the exhaustion that comes with repeatedly going on dead end dates is real.

Your wingman could be a best mate, colleague, your brother/sister or other family member. Heck, it could even be your Mum. It could also be someone in a more formal role, your therapist or life coach or a dating expert like me, Judy.

Here’s 3 things your wingman can do for you:

1- Lend an ear

Dating is hard. It's frustrating, confusing, emotional and a total rollercoaster ride. Having someone to decompress with, who’ll listen to you vent and who’ll reassure you and encourage you to keep trying is the key to success.

2 - Boost your confidence

Others see you in a different light to how you see yourself, a wingman can help you realise what’s great about you and remind you of the value you offer. Sometimes we lose sight of that when we get tired and frustrated. Your wingman is there to hype you up and help you remember how badass you are.

3 - Give you perspective

When we’re close to something we can often have a blinkered view, meaning we’re only able to see one side of a situation. Because your wingman is on the outside of your dating life looking in, they have a different point of view and can be really helpful in pointing out red flags - both your date’s AND yours. Helpfully, they can also point out green flags you may have missed!

Reality bites though, and not everyone has someone in their life who fits the bill of a wingman. Maybe you moved to a new city, maybe you’re levelling up in life and left your old crew behind, maybe you're shy or feel uncomfortable in social situations; those are all valid reasons you might find yourself doing this dating thing alone. If this is you, you might need to proactively go out and get yourself a wingman (or wingmate as we prefer to call it). Someone like me, Judy.

There’s a few bonus reasons you should think about trying a professional wingmate service:

1 - We have insider info

We’ve read all the research, we’ve tested all the apps and we know how the algorithms work. We can help you get better results from dating apps almost overnight and we’ll happily share all those tips with you.

2 - It’s never going to get awkward

We’re not going to run into you at the family Christmas lunch or at Aunt Betty’s 90th birthday, so you don’t have to worry about us knowing the details of your dating life. Because we’ll never break your confidence you can feel comfortable talking to us about what’s happening in your dating life. We’re here to help not judge and though we will tell it to you straight when we need to, we’ll always do it with care and with the intent to help you achieve dating success.

3 - We have a proven track record

We’ve helped so many single people along their dating journey. People of all ages, ethnicities, genders and sexual orientations have had a better dating experience because they’ve had us to lean on (yes, it’s a flex and we’re very proud of it).

The biggest bonus of all, we’re never going to ghost you. At Swipemate, you are our biggest motivation and all our efforts are for you. You can message us anytime, anywhere and know we’re here with the wisdom.

It doesn’t matter if your wingman is me, your next door neighbour or your local barista, just make sure you find yourself one. It’s one of the keys to dating success and at the end of the day, that’s what we’re all after, right?